Love Me To My Core


To stay married or not to stay married—that is the question. It’s a question that’s usually accompanied by gut-wrenching angst. Yes, I asked myself that same question many years ago—in fact, it was about 15 years ago. Over the past few months, I have had a few people come to me and ask my advice on marriage! Kinda a topic I’m no expert on since I’ve only been married twice, and No. 2 is still holding strong, thanks to my amazing hubby!

The No. 1 thing I ask people who’ve asked that question is this: Is your core the same? Do you both love God, do you both have the same beliefs, do you want the same things in life, will you raise your kids the same? I am a true believer that your cores have to be somewhat the same. The rest can fall into place.

Even though my ex and I had the same hobbies and we seemed to be on the same page, our cores were not even close. What he wanted in a wife and what I wanted for myself were not even on the same globe. He was sweet and a great person, but our core beliefs did not match.

So, after three years of wedded bliss, it was over. As I journeyed through the Big D, I really took time to write down all the things I needed in the core of a man. What’s crazy is, I came across that paper a few years ago and read it to Joel. He is every single one of those things.


So, back to saying yes to staying married, I always tell people I am on the side of marriage. I don’t take sides unless there is cheating, abuse, etc. I tell them, “No one can give you that answer, it’s your decision and you’ll have to own it.”

It’s a long, hard road whether you choose to stay or to go. I can tell you from experience, a long, heart-bleeding D-I-V-O-R-C-E can crush your spirit and soul. If you choose to leave because you discover your cores are not the same, make sure you remember why it didn’t work. Remember what kind of person you said “I do” to, so you don’t do it again!

My Balance


Summer is in full swing at the Van Newkirk casa. We have been to dance nationals in Vegas, showed livestock at our county fair, we’ve been to the water park and the list goes on and on. It’s been as exhilarating as it has been exhausting!

I was looking forward to the week my girls were going to stay at their Memo’s house in California—that’s my Mom. I had these huge elaborate plans for myself and I had visions of all the projects I was going to complete. Why not? I would have lots of extra time, right? I was going to work out every day, ride my horse Prince and get that year old to-do list done. Oh, and work 10-hour days on top of that.


Well, during that week I worked out one of the eight days they were gone, never even got to ride my horse, and the list of what I did not get done goes on. What’s crazy is, I get more stuff done when they’re here! My kids are my balance. I think I just got the first little bitty taste of empty nest syndrome. I always joke around saying Joel is going to have a hard time when they leave for college or move out. OMG! It might be me having the meltdown. The house is so boring and quiet without them. I feel like I’m missing half of me and I can’t function!

I did find myself working way too much—the 10-hour days turned into 12 or more hours of work! I’m all for working and I love it, but you need to find a balance between work, family, fun and time for yourself—like riding your horse, working out, shopping for a new pair of flip flops or indulging in a quick pedicure.

I posted a few weeks ago about your “Top 3,” but I think I totally forgot what I wrote about  that week! So it is safe to say that I missed the heck out of my girls, and I need them here to keep Joel busy!!!


Crossed by Gypsy Soule®


Dream It, Love It, Live It!

Crossed by GypsySoule®

I can’t believe we are heading into our 12th year of Gypsy Soule®! What a DREAM come true. So many blessings over the years, along with a lot of blood, sweat and lots of tears of stress! We’ve taken to heart the saying: The harder you work, the luckier you are.

We are excited for what the coming years will bring. With all the new product we’re rolling out, Gypsy Soule® is graduating from an accessory company to a full brand. Amy and I wanted to do more than just have a wholesale company. We wanted to empower women, so we came up with CROSSED by Gypsy Soule®.

CROSSED by Gypsy Soule® is our sister company that allows women to grow their own business, make their own money and be apart of the Gypsy Soule® fashion movement. Our team members, soule sisters in fashion, will establish their own clients and plan home parties where guests can purchase Jewels® and other accessories along with custom footwear with all the flash and flair you expect from Gypsy Soule®!


Yes! Custom shoes! Each party guest chooses her favorite sole style, leather or fabric flip-flop straps and front embellishment. The shoe is then handcrafted and mailed directly to the guest’s home. We’ve combined women’s passion for shoes and fashion and created design perfection!

With price points from $25 to $135, there is something for everyone. CROSSED by Gypsy Soule® is a phenomenal way to combine fun, fashion and friends—and your clients get to design their shoes, their way.

CROSSED by Gypsy Soule®, it’s not just fashion, it’s a statement.

Getting to know Tori Martin

Name: Tori Martin
Profession: Singer/Songwriter

1. Why is it important to live by your own rules?
If you spend your life trying to please the world, you will not only fail, you will never truly be happy!

2. If your house were burning what is the one item you would grab before leaving?
Oh heavens… one item?!
I would definitely grab my journal full of stories, dreams, and lyrics.

3. What are the beauty products you can’t live without?
Make-Up Forever’s Intense Rouge Lipstick- Shade #43
Kat Von D’s Tattoo Liner, and Primed & Poreless by Too Faced.

4. Where is your favorite place to shop?I love shopping small boutiques all over.. that’s, my fave! I’m also a huge fan of Urban Outfitters, and Buckle. 


5. When you were little what did you want to be when you grew up and why?
A country music sanger..  I came into this world knowing exactly what I was supposed to do with my life.. That is to reach others and touch soules through my music. Music is who I am.

6. What women do you admire and why?
My idol is Dolly Parton. She is so genuine, her heart of gold, southern charm, and honesty inspires me to the fullest. If I could be like anyone in this world, it’s her fabulous self. She inspires me in music, life, and faith.


7. What is the hardest thing about being a woman in your industry? The hardest thing about being a woman in the music industry is that we have are playing a man’s game and we have work twice as hard. Female country artists are slim to none… it’s tough. It is sometimes discouraging and causes many to quit because we are not just given the same opportunities, shows, and radio play we have to FIGHT for those spots and no matter how hard the battle is, whether we lose or win, we have to continue to believe in ourselves and our dreams.

8. Have you read any books lately that you would recommend to us?
“The 5 Love Languages” – Gary Chapman Rangers Rockin' some Gypsy

9. Pet Peeve?
One of my biggest pet peeves is when people chew with their mouth open. It drives me up the wall… Keep in mind that I’m on the road with guys, and I cannot break them of their bad habits.. LOL!


10.What charities are you involved in, why should others become involved with those charities?
A portion of my digital sales on ReverbNation goes to a charity called “Love, Hope, & Strength”. I always help with “Toys For Tots” in the winter, and last year I put on my very first benefit. The benefit was for a little guy named Mason who was diagnosed with leukemia at the age of four. With the help of some amazing Texas Country artists, I put on a huge concert and auction for him called “Music 4 Mason” and together we were able to raise $11k for the family. After the concert I flew up to Memphis where he is being treated, and surprised him with the check and a custom guitar from Kona Guitars. It was one of the most rewarding days of my life.

Hippies on the road

11.What is the most memorable day of your life?
The day my Paw-Paw bought me my very first guitar… it was an electric guitar too!

12.What’s on your DVR?
I’m hooked on “Once Upon A Time” right now. It’s SO good!

13.What’s on your IPOD?
I listen to everything.. But I recently downloaded “Maps” – Maroon 5,
“You Were Meant For Me” – Jewel, & “Dancing All Around It” – Mike Ryan.


Favorite Cocktail? I don’t drink, but I can’t live without Passion Tea Lemonade from Starbucks!

15.After a bad day what do you do to wind down?I usually get my hands on my piano for a while, and then soak in the tub!

16.After a good day what do you do to celebrate?
I’m a cupcake fanatic, so cupcakes are my go-to for a happy day!

17.If you could have dinner with any four people alive or dead, who would they be?
My Paw-Paw, Elvis Presley, Dolly Parton & Tammy Wynette. jammin

18.Favorite 3 things you always have with you.
Red lipstick, hippie sunglasses, and essential oils.

19. What do you see as your biggest challenge in life?
My biggest challenge in life is learning to be happy in the moment, or where I’m at presently. Sometimes I forget that God wants us to enjoy the moments we have each day, the small victories, the great victories, and not just what’s to come.

20. What is the best advice you have been given, and who gave it to you?
“All you can do is be yourself.” My mentor Zig told me that, and it rings truer and truer each day. peace

To Be Healthy or Not To Be Healthy

Losing weight is hard and there are so many ways that people are trying to shed the pounds. Whether you are counting calories, doing a particular diet program, working out or taking some sort of diet pill, there never seems to be an exact answer on what actually works!


Our Gypsy Sister, Rachael Bohman, had done what seemed to be every fad diet there was and exercised but never really could lose the weight that she wanted to lose. Growing up she was always picked on because of her weight and then finally one day she finally said ENOUGH and contacted her doctor to talk about what would be best for her to lose the weight. Weighing at 225 pounds they decided that she should have gastric bypass surgery. Leading up to the surgery she had to take 3 months of classes that taught her how to basically eat right. During these classes she lost her first 23 pounds and on the day of her surgery on January 16, 2013 she weighed 202 pounds. After 1-week post surgery she weighed 196 pounds. Having the surgery was no walk in the park though. The first 3 days after surgery she was on strictly a liquid diet and then she had to go on a “Grey Food” diet that consisted of cottage cheese, plain non-flavored yogurt, refried beans, cheeses, scrambled eggs, tuna (small amount of low fat mayo), cream of wheat, Sugar Free (SF) popsicles, SF pudding, SF jello. After her surgery her boyfriend Bobby decided to get weight loss surgery also then 6 days before his surgery he proposed. They plan to get married on October 4, 2014. (YAY for weddings!)


To date she has lost 102 pounds and her fiancé has lost almost 200 pounds! How amazing is that? She bought herself a pair of Miss Me jeans as an incentive and made it her goal to fit in them. Now she said they’re too big. At the beginning she wore a womens size 18 and has dropped her waist size almost 10 inches.



During her transformation she bought a Gypsy Soule® shirt and when she wore it she says it made her feel good about herself and gave her a boost of confidence.


stay -Measure everything you eat


-Read your food labels

-Shop on the outside of the grocery store (Fruits, veggies, meats)

-Don’t confuse thirst with hunger. Drink a glass of water when you feel hungry to see if that’s what you’re really craving.

-Take a walk before lunch or dinner. Not only will you get in some exercise, you’re less likely to choose something unhealthy after a little movement.

-Get some zzzzzzzz’s! Sleep is very very important!

Weight loss surgery may not be your answer to losing weight but we want to know… What helps you?