The moment you realize your daughter is hanging on every word you speak is so powerful. She’s 10 and she’s listening to everything Joel and I say, everything my friends and I say—but the moment I have the power to really make her feel great or bad…it can be overwhelming.
Last night we were waiting in the truck, just the two of us, and she was sitting next to me up on the console of the truck, in the middle of the front seat. We were face-to-face, and I just looked at her and said, “Charley, you are so beautiful. I am so lucky to be your Mommy!”
The softness that came over her eyes, the delight in her huge smile that followed me saying that brings me to tears as I write this blog. I know I’m the most powerful, influential person in my daughter’s life, but in that moment, I really got what that meant!
It’s my job every day to tell her and Jaylee how amazing they are. My last words to them every night are, “Who always loves you no matter what? MOMMY…”
I love the song from Bruno Mars, “You Are Amazing Just The Way You Are.” That song is about loving who you are, accepting yourself even though you’re imperfect—and doing the same for others. We all have things we don’t like about ourselves: our nose, our butt, our curly hair, our straight hair or how fat we are. Blah, blah, blah!
Soule Sisters, take that power back! Look at the things you do love and move on from the things you don’t. Life is too short to focus what’s not great! I know it’s a cliché—the thing about clichés is that they’re usually true—so here’s the cliché: NOBODY IS PERFECT. God gave each of us so many gifts, and to waste those gifts on wishing away our perceived imperfections is a colossal waste of life and goodness and happiness.
This week I’m putting all my outfits together for Vegas and, yes, NOTHING is fitting. I am 10 pounds heaver than ever! So WHAT?! A few new pairs of jeans, more crystal, fantastic makeup and some jewels, and this Gyspy Sister is going to rock 40 with a few extra pounds.
I can choose to be mad and make it all about me and my weight, or I can show off my qualities and have a blast with my friends and hubby in Vegas! Wherever you are in life or whatever size you are, you’re amazing just the way you are. And if I don’t live my life by those words, what I am teaching my daughters?